If you’re seeing me while married, this is how I feel about you.

I am sure from time to time you find yourself thinking “Should I be seeking intimacy from another woman, and would she judge me for not being faithful in my marriage?” Am I correct? I fully understand how you feel, but I want you to know that I would never think less of you if you seek me out to fulfil your desires that your partner no longer fulfil for you. You have my full respect for making a stand for your happiness and for making this decision to prioritise your needs at times. You deserve this and you don’t hear it often enough.

I believe that ideally, we should feel completely safe to open up to our spouse about what makes us happy and our happiness should be each other’s priority. However, I know that this hasn’t been a possibility for many married couples for many reasons. Perhaps it’s the long working hours, the travelling, the stresses or, as much as I hate to say it, the children. Has your marriage brought you joy lately, or do you feel left out among all these other things that have gotten in between you two?

I’d like you to ask yourself what is it that you’re longing to feel gain. Is it sexual connection, emotional intimacy, or even a simple friendship with someone who prioritises you? When you know what you want I hope you will reach out to me and let me know. I want to be that someone else who makes you happy and perhaps I can give you a different meaning to the phrase “happily married”.

Although it might sound like I have completely lost faith in monogamy and marriage, I still believe that with the effort we could make it work. However, I realise that it is damn difficult in this day and age when we are expected to be everything for everyone at once. Marriage isn’t as simple as it once was in our grandparents’ generation and I believe we need a little help along the way to become our best in the many different hats we are wearing.

Imagine if you could let go of these expectations on yourself and enjoy the company of someone who is there for a good time with you, who appreciates you for just being you. No dramas. No judgements. That is how our time together will feel like, so just imagine that and enjoy, until we meet.

Monica - your other woman xo